Dear,

Overthinker And Overlover

I know how you feel. I know how your mind is constantly going 100 mph. Like a wild fire raging through a forest with no way to stop it. It never stops and it’s so much harder then you can imagine to stop it.

I know how your mind works. You want to be carefree but no matter how hard you try it seems to do no good. You struggle to just enjoy the moment. Because your mind is always wondering where you stand with people.

You can’t send a text without reading it three or four times only for them to reply again so you have to delete it and start over.

It takes you a long time to make any decisions because you want to make sure it’s the right one and that you make no mistakes.

Going with the flow is the worst possible scenario that you may go through because you don’t like the flow. It leaves you with all that gray area on what is going to happen because it wasn’t part of the plan. It wasn’t something you left your house knowing you were going to do that day so now your whole day is thrown off.

You might hate yourself for overthinking. You might think it’s one of the worst qualities about you. You wish you could be more laid back and able to go with the flow.

But even if it causes you a lot more stress then you should have to deal with, it isn’t entirely a horrible thing. It honestly comes from a genuinely good place.

The reason you over think is because you overlove.

When you find someone that ignites a fire in your soul, you can’t just put half of your effort into loving them. You know that there is so many ways to making things work because you think of every possible solution, that putting only a little bit of yourself into the relationship isn’t an option.

You want to give them everything. You make them your priority. You want to make them the happiest they could ever be, so you do anything to make sure that happens.

You like to please people, especially those you love. So you don’t hold back and you give them everything you have because one of these times you know it will be worth it and it will pay off.

You love hard. You love like you got nothing to lose.

And to some people its scary how much dedication we put towards things in our lives and the way we handle situations. But what they don’t realize is the amount of love and care that are behind all of our thoughts.

You overthink because you care too much. You want to send the perfect text because you care about making the other person smile when they read the words. You want to make sure they never feel like they are not enough. Because we definitely have felt like that on more than one occasion.

You don’t want to waste any time. You don’t want to give them any less than they deserve. You want to make sure they are spoiled and taken care of at all times.

You overthink because you are scared of losing the ones you are so deeply passionate about. Because so many people have let you down before and left you in dust like you were nothing.

So you notice the little things. The way your partners says your name when they need you, the way they smile when they are uncomfortable, the way they tense up when they are stressed, and the way they bite their nails when they get anxious.

You notice these things because you pay attention to so much detail. You like to notice things that people don’t typically notice.

But you also do things that most people don’t do either. Like saying sorry a lot. You know it must be said sometimes when you have made a mistake and need to make it up to your partner. But you say it for things that an apology wasn’t necessary for because you don’t want to upset them.

You would never let them be lonely, sad, or angry without atleast trying to make them feel better. So you constantly ask if they are okay, or if you did something wrong so that you can fix it if you did. You just can’t help it because you hate when people are upset with you.

This is all just a part of loving and caring about someone an incredible amount.

Of course, sometimes, your overthinking can take a turn for the worst. It can make you feel like you are inadequate. It can make you question yourself. It can make you feel like everything you do is wrong.

But the other half has to do with overloving. You never like someone a tiny bit. You love them with every little piece of you. And when you love someone that much, you want to love them right.

And some may get annoyed or offended by the way you overthink everything they do and say but it’s only because you care so darn much. I can promise you !

Love,

The Girl That Overthinks And Overloves Everytime